1. Reprogram your mind to stay positive.
Our thoughts and actions are influenced by our feelings. That's why when you're just feeling "blah" because the weather is crummy or you had a stressful week all you want to do is stay in bed.
Here's the problem. Negativity is all around us. There's nothing we can do about that, either, but what can do is learn how to reprogram our minds to stay positive. You can't trap every negative thought in the happy-clappy end zone of your mind, but can take charge of your thoughts by:
• Keeping a gratitude journal. Jot down what you're thankful for every day instead of worrying what you don't have. Gratitude will make you happier, increase your productivity and help you sleep better at night.
• Creating and repeating positive affirmations that acknowledge the progress you are making in the areas where you want to improve.
• Surrounding yourself with positive people who lift your spirits. Remember, emotions are contagious.
• Don't acknowledge negative thoughts.
• Staying active. Exercise releases endorphins but idleness leads to over-analyzing and overthinking.
2. Set your alarm half an hour earlier.
One traits many successful individuals have in common is they get up early. While you don't have to wake up at the ungodly hour of 3:45 a.m.. like Apple's Tim Cook, you could start setting your early half an hour earlier. So, if you normally set your alarm for 7 a.m., set it for 6:30 a.m.
The reason?
This will give you some extra time in the morning to exercise, meditate, read, check your emails, have breakfast with your family, plan your day or work on something that you're passionate about. It saves you from rushing out the door each morning feeling forgetful, unaccomplished and discombobulated. Time tracking is key to self-improvement.
3. Clean up after yourself immediately.
How long does it really take to make your bed or wash your morning dishes? Maybe five minutes? Here's the thing. If you don't stay on top of these minor chores, they quickly build-up. That cereal bowl and coffee mug becomes a sink full smelly dishes that take a lot of time to clean. If washed immediately, you wouldn't have this headache.
What's more, people who immediately clean-up after themselves, like making their beds every morning, tend to be happier, as well as more successful since it makes you feel accomplished, removes clutter, and gives them a sense of control.
4. Don't over-commit.
A common theme I notice with self-help advice is how people make goal-setting sound easy. They'll suggest that you get more exercise or sleep, but that's easier said than done when you're working 12 hour days and helping with a newborn.
I'm not making excuses. Far from it. It's just easier to commit and follow through successfully if you keep your goals simple and clearly defined. Start small and work your way up. Don't jump into a marathon headfirst if you need more exercise. Start with 10 push-ups a day, a walk down your block after dinner or this seven-minute workout plan that you can do in your room.
If you want to start eating healthier but aren't much of a cook, try a service like Blue Apron or Sun Basket. They send healthy ingredients to your home and give you step-by-step instructions on how to prepare the meals. If you want to start meditating, start with devoting five minutes a day.
This rings true in the business world as well. When we started my company we tried to be everything to everyone. Now, we focus on being the best invoicing company out there. Don't overpromise and under deliver.
5. Don't be so predictable.
Doing the same thing each and every day puts us in a rut. One of the best things that you can do for yourself is to stop being so predictable. Break out of your comfort zone at least once a week and do something new that you've never done before. Try that Thai restaurant. Go snowboarding. Purchase a wardrobe from a different store.
You get the point.
Opening ourselves up to new experiences makes us happier, changes our perspectives, helps us recognize new opportunities, boosts energy and makes us more receptive to change. This cycle circles back. New experiences will make you happier.
6. Swap complaining for expressing gratitude.
Even during my darkest times, I always tried to remain optimistic by reminding myself that despite the failure of my business, I still had the support of my family and friends. That helped me make the best of an otherwise dire situation.
One of the best ways to feel better when you need it most is by showing your gratitude. Be thankful for the best thing that happened to you today. I already mentioned keeping a daily gratitude journal, but I want to stress this can change your life. Researchers have found that;
• Those who keep a weekly gratitude journal tend to exercise more, have fewer physical symptoms and are more optimistic about their futures.
• Daily discussion of gratitude can increase alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness, energy and sleep duration, as well lower reports of depression.
• Individuals who think about, talk about or write about gratitude daily are more likely to help someone with a personal problem or offer emotional support.
• Those who are grateful place less importance on material goods, are less envious of others and are more likely to share their possessions with others.
• Daily gratitude practices may help prevent coronary artery disease.
Show your gratitude to friends, family, clients and colleagues. Sincerely thanking people is one of the best ways to strengthen relationships. After all, doesn't it feel awesome when someone thanks you for your hard work, doing a chore, or just listening when they need to vent?
7. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Stop losing sleep over what others have and what you don't. Here's the truth: there is always going to be someone who has a better paying job, lives in a nicer house, drives a fancier car and goes on more exotic vacations. Your friends may start families before you. Some might get to retire early.
Comparing yourself just makes you miserable and unhappily preoccupied about what others consider success. Instead, worry about what you define as success. When I started freelancing, I had friends who mocked me because I wasn't making as much money as they were. The way I saw it, I had a flexible schedule, got to work wherever I wanted and never complained about work since I enjoyed what I was doing. My friends that gave me a rough time complained constantly about their jobs, colleagues, waking-up so early, etc.
Who do you think was happier?
8. Tackle the one thing that you've been putting off.
We all put off that one thing: the phone call to your insurance company, cleaning up your desk, changing the batteries in the smoke alarms. Just like those dirty dishes I discussed earlier, setting priorities includes making certain seemingly small tasks don't build-up until you have to spend an entire day catching up.
If you have unfinished tasks, you are carrying a heavy weight around with you all the time, no matter how small each task is. You have to remember it. If possible, when you think of it, do it right then.
After you've listed your priorities for the day, add a long-standing chore to your to-do-list. For example, at the end of the workday, you'll make that phone call or organize your workplace since you've already gotten all of your most important, and energy-draining, tasks done for the day.
You'll be surprised at how much better, and productive, you'll feel once you've crossed these items off your list -- even if it's just a mental list.
Sunday, April 30, 2017
10 Steps to Become an Industry Expert in the Next 12 Months
1. Purchase the top 10 most popular books on the topic.
When attempting to learn about an industry rapidly, try locating some of the most well-regarded literature on the domain. In this day and age of internet shopping with purchase reviews to guide us, you can quickly get a sense of books that are well-regarded by others. Also consider asking for suggestions in industry forums, online or otherwise, or through reference from individuals in your personal peer group.
2. Follow the top industry experts on the topic.
Every industry has experts, and generally there is no shortage of folks who are happy to share their thoughts and general observations through various forums. While there are inevitably various opinions on who the "experts" are, with research you will find that certain individual names will generally bubble up to the top repeatedly. Those with a more public profile will generally have a lot of available information to lead you in your research.
3. Take an industry course.
If you are new to a domain and looking to rapidly immerse yourself, invest in education seminars or courses. In some cases, local community colleges may offer an affordable option to learn about a specific topic. Introduce yourself to others who can assist in your perspective, like other students and educators. Another option is to utilize a site like Udemy that offers quick topic courses on nearly any subject at a very affordable price point.
4. Make connections with others in the domain.
Build a network! The internet can provide a lot of points, and business networking websites, like LinkedIn, can be invaluable when establishing connections. Don't be shy about reaching out to new connections. You will likely find that your interest will be met with support, and requesting time to have a short dialogue is completely appropriate. When I meet with someone for the first time, I forward a list of questions in advance to ensure our meeting will be productive and respectful of their time and mine.
5. Join an industry networking association.
This is a wonderful opportunity to meet local experts and create connections for future learning opportunities. Associations offer opportunities to network, attend educational seminars, and receive up-to-date content on specific subject matters. Look in your local area for trade or industry get-togethers on websites like MeetUp. You may be surprised.
6. Attend industry tradeshows or conferences.
National industry tradeshows and conferences afford the opportunity to almost guarantee that top leaders and thinkers in a domain will be under a single roof, and it's a great opportunity to network and participate in training sessions and seminars. In addition, personal connections made through face-to-face interactions will have greater impact than potentially spending months pursuing meetings through more impersonal communication channels.
7. Participate on a relevant industry advisory groups.
Industry associations exist for most, if not all, industry groups, and there are generally numerous opportunities to support activities that impact and inform industry direction. Industry advisory groups generally have many working groups, made up of motivated members with a desire to move agendas forward in a specific domain. Advisory councils and boards also exist to set the direction for aspects of the organization and generally interact with both public and private sector partners, offering greater insight into trends.
8. Listen to podcasts.
An easy way to maximize your time learning about topic is leveraging audio podcasts in your downtime -- perhaps while driving into work in the morning. A lot of podcasts tend to take on a more relaxed, conversational approach to discussing issues and opinions, and make the information sharing more contextual. A familiar approach in podcasting is to have a host interview a rotating lineup of recognized experts. Sometimes guests debate each other in a constructive manner. These can be very informational if they exist in your target domain.
9. Stay up to date on the industry news.
Now that news is immediate, leverage the power of readers and viewers to aggregate the information you care about, and find time to review it. I've been using Flipboard as a means to do this for many years. I generally spend a few minutes throughout the day to scan new articles and highlight any for deeper review. This provides a snapshot on the latest trends and information being discussed in the domain, and while timeliness of information is always instrumental, in some industries it is simply a competitive need to stay ahead.
10. Volunteer to support a non-profit organization.
The challenge for a number of not-for-profit groups is not having access to recognized industry experts. Finding a not-for-profit group that both furthers your awareness of aspects of the industry and provides a sense of accomplishment in a lesser-served aspect of an industry can be very rewarding on multiple levels.
Building your industry expertise does not have to take long, but you should approach it with a methodical plan of action that allows you to gain knowledge and build your personal experience in the domain. You'll also find these same skills critical as you continue in your career to ensure your movement in time with industry trends.
Friday, April 28, 2017
10 Ways to Become a Super-Likable Person
1. Have a friendly, open demeanor.
The fastest way to kill your likability is to come off as fake, aloof or indifferent. Chances are you don't mean to be seen as negative or disinterested; you may just feel uncomfortable in some social settings or are naturally more reserved.
But keep in mind that others are trying to get a read on you. When you present yourself as closed-off or snobby -- even if it's unintentional -- nobody is going to be excited about getting to know you. Let your guard down and don't be afraid to be yourself.
Be aware of how you are presenting yourself to others and do your best to develop an open, friendly demeanor. Let your personality shine through and practice opening up, in both verbal and nonverbal ways. Smile. Make eye contact.
Nod to show you are listening. Lean in when someone is speaking to you. People are naturally drawn to others who are genuine and who are comfortable in their own skins. So be authentically you -- and remember, it's often not about what you say verbally, but what your body language is saying.
2. Listen first, then speak.
So often we are in a rush to get a word in edgewise when we are talking to others. When someone else is speaking, we only half listen while we are contemplating how to respond. By being too quick to insert ourselves into a conversation, we often miss a chance to establish a connection with the other person.
If you cut into a conversation, you can make the other person feel like you are shutting them down before they have a chance to fully explain.
Act as if the person you are speaking with is the most important person in the world. Practice actively listening to them -- really concentrate on what they are saying. Don't jump in to offer advice or try to solve a problem. But do ask follow-up questions. This will help them feel heard and let them know that you sincerely took the time to understand what they were saying.
3. Don't hog the spotlight.
We all love to take the spotlight from time to time. If you're extroverted, you may live to be the life of the party. But people who are consumed with getting attention may be missing all kinds of opportunities to offer value and be of service to those around them. If you come off as conceited or self-important, people may not want to spend a lot of time around you.
Likable people don't want to hog the spotlight, they want to share center stage. They seek to shift the focus to those around them. They know how to praise others without being excessive.
They understand the importance of bringing others into the conversation and pulling a quieter person out of their shell. The bottom line: stop pining for people's attention and look for ways to include others in the conversation.
4. Ditch your devices and focus on who's in front of you.
Put down your smartphone, step away from your digital devices and focus on the humans in front of you. Instead of scrolling social media, just socialize. Mingle with people in real time. If you are attempting to monitor your email or return text messages, you will fail miserably at building a relationship with the live person you're ignoring.
When talking with another person, fully commit to that conversation and focus your attention on them. Technology has it's time and place, but too often we make it the focal point of our lives. Go old school and spend some time making small talk with those around you to begin building real relationships.
5. Synchronize yourself to those around you.
We may not realize it, but when it comes to social interactions, we all like a copycat. We naturally synchronize ourselves to those around us. When someone smiles, we are inclined to smile back. This begins in infancy: babies naturally imitate the facial expressions of those around them.
This social synchronization is an important way of building rapport with others. It means we subtly imitate the gestures of the person we are talking with. We may unconsciously mimic their breathing and body posture as well. Matching your voice and tone to the other person is a powerful tool for building a feeling of affinity and connection.
The other person will automatically feel like you are on the same wavelength with them and empathize with them. So when you have a conversation with someone, be aware of how you are mimicking them and try to discreetly match their body language and behavior.
6. Ask conversation starters.
Knowing how to start a conversation on the right foot is key to immediately instilling a sense of belonging and connection. Questions get the other person talking and engaged in a conversation, but the trick is knowing what questions to ask.
An open-ended question invites the other person to offer their opinion or give their thoughts on a subject. The idea is to use questions that get a conversation going. Some examples include: "What was the last funny video you saw?" or "Who is your favorite musician/actor/comedian?" Think of questions that begin with who, what, where, when, why and how.
On the other hand, a closed-ended question is one that can usually be answered with a yes or no response. For instance, asking "Are you feeling better today?" is closed-ended, and the person doesn't have to answer with anything more than yes or no. Asking something like "How are you feeling today?" invites the other person to share something about themselves.
7. Be open-minded.
Likable people are seen as approachable and personable because they are open-minded and willing to talk to and listen to many different types of people. They avoid having preconceived notions or passing judgment on others, but are willing to hear others out and get different points of view.
Of course you will meet people you disagree with, but the idea is to allow others to have their say, so you can better understand them and make them feel heard.
Allow others to offer their thoughts and ideas, and then respond by sharing your own beliefs and feelings -- always in a considerate and respectful way. Do this, and you will promote deeper discourse and discussion.
8. Be reliable and balanced.
Being moody, short-tempered or gloomy are the opposite of likable. People who are known for their unpredictable and fluctuating moods aren't making anyone's "most lovable" list. In fact, people will actively avoid you. If you want others to be comfortable approaching you, people need to feel confident that you are even-tempered and reliable.
You can have a bad day or be in a sour mood sometimes but when you are, remember this little gem: you don't have to express every thought or feeling that comes into your head. Sometimes it really is better to nod, smile and say nothing.
Be honest when you are stressed or frazzled -- give yourself a little extra space. Don't let a bad mood control you. Instead, treat each new person you come across as a fresh start and don't let previous entanglements influence how you handle someone.
9. Look for shared interests.
When it comes to establishing a rapport with someone, look for ways to establish common ground through shared hobbies or interests. This is when having a variety of interests and a diverse background will come in handy. It may help to do a little homework ahead of time if you know you will be meeting new people.
Do you both enjoy certain activities, watch the same television shows or enjoy reading similar types of books? Perhaps you know people in common, are involved in similar community organizations or have done business with the same company.
There are many ways that you may overlap with someone. And if you don't have something in common, chances are they have a skill or hobby that you are interested in and would like to learn about. View each person you meet as an opportunity to learn something new.
10. Say what you mean verbally and nonverbally.
We've all had the experience of asking someone how they are doing and they say they are fine, but their body language indicates something else entirely. They may avoid eye contact and have a scowl on their face while tapping their foot and using an angry tone of voice. The fact is, we don't believe a person who uses mixed signals like this. We find it confusing. It inhibits our ability to build trust.
The fastest way to kill your likability is to come off as fake, aloof or indifferent. Chances are you don't mean to be seen as negative or disinterested; you may just feel uncomfortable in some social settings or are naturally more reserved.
But keep in mind that others are trying to get a read on you. When you present yourself as closed-off or snobby -- even if it's unintentional -- nobody is going to be excited about getting to know you. Let your guard down and don't be afraid to be yourself.
Be aware of how you are presenting yourself to others and do your best to develop an open, friendly demeanor. Let your personality shine through and practice opening up, in both verbal and nonverbal ways. Smile. Make eye contact.
Nod to show you are listening. Lean in when someone is speaking to you. People are naturally drawn to others who are genuine and who are comfortable in their own skins. So be authentically you -- and remember, it's often not about what you say verbally, but what your body language is saying.
2. Listen first, then speak.
So often we are in a rush to get a word in edgewise when we are talking to others. When someone else is speaking, we only half listen while we are contemplating how to respond. By being too quick to insert ourselves into a conversation, we often miss a chance to establish a connection with the other person.
If you cut into a conversation, you can make the other person feel like you are shutting them down before they have a chance to fully explain.
Act as if the person you are speaking with is the most important person in the world. Practice actively listening to them -- really concentrate on what they are saying. Don't jump in to offer advice or try to solve a problem. But do ask follow-up questions. This will help them feel heard and let them know that you sincerely took the time to understand what they were saying.
3. Don't hog the spotlight.
We all love to take the spotlight from time to time. If you're extroverted, you may live to be the life of the party. But people who are consumed with getting attention may be missing all kinds of opportunities to offer value and be of service to those around them. If you come off as conceited or self-important, people may not want to spend a lot of time around you.
Likable people don't want to hog the spotlight, they want to share center stage. They seek to shift the focus to those around them. They know how to praise others without being excessive.
They understand the importance of bringing others into the conversation and pulling a quieter person out of their shell. The bottom line: stop pining for people's attention and look for ways to include others in the conversation.
4. Ditch your devices and focus on who's in front of you.
Put down your smartphone, step away from your digital devices and focus on the humans in front of you. Instead of scrolling social media, just socialize. Mingle with people in real time. If you are attempting to monitor your email or return text messages, you will fail miserably at building a relationship with the live person you're ignoring.
When talking with another person, fully commit to that conversation and focus your attention on them. Technology has it's time and place, but too often we make it the focal point of our lives. Go old school and spend some time making small talk with those around you to begin building real relationships.
5. Synchronize yourself to those around you.
We may not realize it, but when it comes to social interactions, we all like a copycat. We naturally synchronize ourselves to those around us. When someone smiles, we are inclined to smile back. This begins in infancy: babies naturally imitate the facial expressions of those around them.
This social synchronization is an important way of building rapport with others. It means we subtly imitate the gestures of the person we are talking with. We may unconsciously mimic their breathing and body posture as well. Matching your voice and tone to the other person is a powerful tool for building a feeling of affinity and connection.
The other person will automatically feel like you are on the same wavelength with them and empathize with them. So when you have a conversation with someone, be aware of how you are mimicking them and try to discreetly match their body language and behavior.
6. Ask conversation starters.
Knowing how to start a conversation on the right foot is key to immediately instilling a sense of belonging and connection. Questions get the other person talking and engaged in a conversation, but the trick is knowing what questions to ask.
An open-ended question invites the other person to offer their opinion or give their thoughts on a subject. The idea is to use questions that get a conversation going. Some examples include: "What was the last funny video you saw?" or "Who is your favorite musician/actor/comedian?" Think of questions that begin with who, what, where, when, why and how.
On the other hand, a closed-ended question is one that can usually be answered with a yes or no response. For instance, asking "Are you feeling better today?" is closed-ended, and the person doesn't have to answer with anything more than yes or no. Asking something like "How are you feeling today?" invites the other person to share something about themselves.
7. Be open-minded.
Likable people are seen as approachable and personable because they are open-minded and willing to talk to and listen to many different types of people. They avoid having preconceived notions or passing judgment on others, but are willing to hear others out and get different points of view.
Of course you will meet people you disagree with, but the idea is to allow others to have their say, so you can better understand them and make them feel heard.
Allow others to offer their thoughts and ideas, and then respond by sharing your own beliefs and feelings -- always in a considerate and respectful way. Do this, and you will promote deeper discourse and discussion.
8. Be reliable and balanced.
Being moody, short-tempered or gloomy are the opposite of likable. People who are known for their unpredictable and fluctuating moods aren't making anyone's "most lovable" list. In fact, people will actively avoid you. If you want others to be comfortable approaching you, people need to feel confident that you are even-tempered and reliable.
You can have a bad day or be in a sour mood sometimes but when you are, remember this little gem: you don't have to express every thought or feeling that comes into your head. Sometimes it really is better to nod, smile and say nothing.
Be honest when you are stressed or frazzled -- give yourself a little extra space. Don't let a bad mood control you. Instead, treat each new person you come across as a fresh start and don't let previous entanglements influence how you handle someone.
9. Look for shared interests.
When it comes to establishing a rapport with someone, look for ways to establish common ground through shared hobbies or interests. This is when having a variety of interests and a diverse background will come in handy. It may help to do a little homework ahead of time if you know you will be meeting new people.
Do you both enjoy certain activities, watch the same television shows or enjoy reading similar types of books? Perhaps you know people in common, are involved in similar community organizations or have done business with the same company.
There are many ways that you may overlap with someone. And if you don't have something in common, chances are they have a skill or hobby that you are interested in and would like to learn about. View each person you meet as an opportunity to learn something new.
10. Say what you mean verbally and nonverbally.
We've all had the experience of asking someone how they are doing and they say they are fine, but their body language indicates something else entirely. They may avoid eye contact and have a scowl on their face while tapping their foot and using an angry tone of voice. The fact is, we don't believe a person who uses mixed signals like this. We find it confusing. It inhibits our ability to build trust.
Wednesday, April 26, 2017
9 Ways to Be Indispensable That Never Appear on Performance Appraisals
1. They never fail to share (or even give away) the credit.
People we hate to work with tend to be extremely political: they jockey, they maneuver, they plot, and they always try to make themselves look better in the eyes of others -- especially at the expense of other people. (After all, if I look good and you look bad, I'm that much further ahead, right?)
Indispensable people know the best glory is reflected glory. They step back from the spotlight. They let others take the credit for hard work. They let others receive the praise for a job well done..
Most of all, they gain a private sense of fulfillment from seeing others receive public recognition -- because that means everyone wins.
2. They always think before they speak and act.
Ever seen someone throw a chair because he thought his instructions had not been followed? I have. Ever seen someone shred an employee for a mistake it turns out that person didn't make? I have.
Ever seen someone speak or act without thinking -- and forever revised your opinion of her? I have.
Indispensable people react instantly to good news. They react instantly to offer recognition, congratulations, and praise.
But they take a long time to think, reflect, and decide the best way to speak and act when problems arise or when mistakes are made. They know their words and actions will leave a lasting impact, so they do everything possible to get it right.
Even when everything around them seems to be going wrong.
3. They make others feel even smarter than they are.
You know that guy. Maybe he's an employee, a colleague, a vendor. He hears an idea. It's a good idea. It's a great idea.
Now it's his idea.
Do it once and people narrow their eyes. Do it twice and resentment simmers. Do it three times and that's the last time anyone ever shares any ideas with you.
Indispensable people have a knack for doing the opposite: they make their ideas feel like our ideas. When that happens we all work harder. We all work with a greater sense of purpose. We all feel like we're part of something bigger.
And we're all more likely to succeed.
4. They never find something to take personally.
A French dilettante once said, "I am such an egotist that if I were to write about a chair, I'd find some way to write about myself."
You know a guy like that. He sees himself as the center of his own universe, at the center of every story he tells -- and the victim of every unfortunate or negative event.
An employee misses work because he's badly injured? Forget him -- look what a mess that makes of my staffing levels! A supplier has a baby and needs to reschedule an appointment? Forget her -- doesn't she know what that does to my schedule?
To those people, whatever happens to someone else -- regardless of how unfortunate or even tragic -- becomes trivial; what matters most is the effect that has on them.
The only things indispensable people take personally are the things they can do to make life better for other people -- because they feel a personal obligation to improve the lives of the people around them.
5. They always find a silver lining.
You land a major customer... but all you can think about is how hard it will be to fulfill all the new orders. You hire a superstar programmer, but all you can think about is how much you have to pay her. You team up with an awesome partner, but all you can think about is the control you'll lose.
Victories, in business and life, are few and far between. Achieving something awesome (or even just a tiny bit cool) takes time and effort, so reasons to celebrate can be rare.
Indispensable people realize that every huge goal is accomplished one small step at a time and rightly feel every step is cause for celebration. They have a knack for finding the silver lining in every dark cloud because they know there is always a silver lining -- you just have to be willing to look.
And by looking, they spread a sense of optimism and enthusiasm -- something that is often in short supply.
6. They listen way more than they talk.
Interrupting isn't just rude. When you interrupt someone what you're really saying is, "I'm not listening to you so I can understand what you are saying; I'm only listening to find a place to jump in and say what I want say."
Indispensable people listen more than they talk. They focus on what others say. They ask questions not to seem smart but to better understand.
They make us feel wise and respected.
And we love them for it.
7. They never actively seek validation.
Everyone likes praise.
But some people need praise. Some people need constant attention. They need constant validation that they are smart, capable, in charge, successful. In fact, they need to know they are smarter, more capable, and more successful than everyone else.
Indispensable people don't care about external validation. They care about feeling good about themselves. The only validation they seek is what they find in the mirror.
Seeking self-worth inside themselves allows them to spend all their energy encouraging, recognizing, and validating other people -- which makes them awesome to work with.
And also makes them awesome friends.
8. They never talk out of school.
It's hard for any of us to resist learning inside scoop. Finding out the reasons behind someone's decisions, the motivations behind someone's actions, the skinny behind someone's hidden agenda -- much less whether Marcy from shipping is really dating Juan in accounting. Those conversations are hard to resist.
Unfortunately, the people who gossip about other people are also gossiping about us, and suddenly the idea of gossip isn't so much fun.
Indispensable people excuse themselves from gossip, and walk away. They don't worry that they'll lose a gossiper's respect -- they know anyone wiling to gossip doesn't respect other people anyway.
Instead, if they decide to share a secret, they speak openly about their own thoughts and feelings. That way they're not gossiping.
They're just being genuine -- and we all love being around people who are genuine.
9. They never jump on a soapbox.
The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything, and the more likely you are to think you need to tell other people everything you know.
Some people speak with much more finality than foundation. Some people think a position or "status" automatically confers wisdom. And that means other people hear but don't listen.
Indispensable people share their thoughts in a humble and unpretentious way. They already know what they know.
11 Habits of Mentally Strong People
1. They're emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of mental strength. You cannot be mentally strong without the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them. Moments that test your mental strength are ultimately testing your emotional intelligence (EQ).
Unlike your IQ, which is fixed, your EQ is a flexible skill that you can improve with understanding and effort. It's no wonder that 90 percent of top performers have high EQs and people with high EQs earn $28,000 more annually (on average) than their low-EQ counterparts. Unfortunately EQ skills are in short supply. TalentSmart has tested more than a million people, and we've found that just 36 percent of these are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen.
2. They're confident.
Mentally strong people subscribe to Ford's notion that your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed. This notion isn't just a motivational tool -- it's a fact. A recent study at the University of Melbourne showed that confident people went on to earn higher wages and get promoted more quickly than others did.
"Whether you think you can, or think you can't -- you're right." -- Henry Ford
True confidence -- as opposed to the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities -- has a look all its own. Mentally strong people have an upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish because their confidence inspires others and helps them to make things happen.
3. They say no.
Research conducted at UC Berkeley showed that the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout and even depression. Mentally strong people know that saying no is healthy, and they have the self-esteem and foresight to make their nos clear.
When it's time to say no, mentally strong people avoid phrases such as "I don't think I can" or "I'm not certain." They say no with confidence because they know that saying no to a new commitment honors their existing commitments and gives them the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
The mentally strong also know how to exert self-control by saying no to themselves. They delay gratification and avoid impulsive action that causes harm.
4. They neutralize difficult people.
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. Mentally strong people control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find common ground and solutions to problems. Even when things completely derail, mentally strong people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
5. They embrace change.
Mentally strong people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness. They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.
Only when you embrace change can you find the good in it. You need to have an open mind and open arms if you're going to recognize, and capitalize on, the opportunities that change creates.
6. They embrace failure.
Mentally strong people embrace failure because they know that the road to success is paved with it. No one ever experienced true success without first embracing failure. By revealing when you're on the wrong path, your mistakes pave the way for you to succeed. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when you're feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. It's this frustration that forces you to think differently, to look outside the box and to see the solution that you've been missing.
7. Yet, they don't dwell on mistakes.
Mentally strong people know that where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy, which produces positive emotions and improves performance. Mentally strong people distance themselves from their mistakes, but they do so without forgetting them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they are able to adapt and adjust for future success.
8. They don't compare themselves to others.
Mentally strong people don't pass judgment on other people because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don't need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Jealousy and resentment suck the life right out of you; they're massive energy-stealers. Mentally strong people don't waste time or energy sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up. Instead of wasting your energy on jealousy, funnel that energy into appreciation. When you celebrate the success of other people, you both benefit.
9. They exercise.
A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more socially, intellectually and athletically competent. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher. Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, which is key to mental strength, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.
10. They get enough sleep.
It's difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your mental strength. When you sleep, your brain removes toxic proteins, which are by-products of neural activity when you're awake. Unfortunately, your brain can remove them adequately only while you're asleep, so when you don't get enough sleep, the toxic proteins remain in your brain cells, wreaking havoc by impairing your ability to think -- something no amount of caffeine can fix.
Mentally tough people know that their self-control, focus and memory are all reduced when they don't get enough -- or the right kind -- of sleep, so they make quality sleep a top priority.
11. They're relentlessly positive.
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you'll see that it's just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies and environmental disasters. It's easy to think the world is headed downhill fast. And who knows? Maybe it is. But mentally strong people don't worry about that because they don't get caught up in things they can't control. Instead of trying to start a revolution overnight, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power -- their attention and their effort.
Emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of mental strength. You cannot be mentally strong without the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them. Moments that test your mental strength are ultimately testing your emotional intelligence (EQ).
Unlike your IQ, which is fixed, your EQ is a flexible skill that you can improve with understanding and effort. It's no wonder that 90 percent of top performers have high EQs and people with high EQs earn $28,000 more annually (on average) than their low-EQ counterparts. Unfortunately EQ skills are in short supply. TalentSmart has tested more than a million people, and we've found that just 36 percent of these are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen.
2. They're confident.
Mentally strong people subscribe to Ford's notion that your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed. This notion isn't just a motivational tool -- it's a fact. A recent study at the University of Melbourne showed that confident people went on to earn higher wages and get promoted more quickly than others did.
"Whether you think you can, or think you can't -- you're right." -- Henry Ford
True confidence -- as opposed to the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities -- has a look all its own. Mentally strong people have an upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish because their confidence inspires others and helps them to make things happen.
3. They say no.
Research conducted at UC Berkeley showed that the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout and even depression. Mentally strong people know that saying no is healthy, and they have the self-esteem and foresight to make their nos clear.
When it's time to say no, mentally strong people avoid phrases such as "I don't think I can" or "I'm not certain." They say no with confidence because they know that saying no to a new commitment honors their existing commitments and gives them the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
The mentally strong also know how to exert self-control by saying no to themselves. They delay gratification and avoid impulsive action that causes harm.
4. They neutralize difficult people.
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. Mentally strong people control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find common ground and solutions to problems. Even when things completely derail, mentally strong people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
5. They embrace change.
Mentally strong people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness. They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.
Only when you embrace change can you find the good in it. You need to have an open mind and open arms if you're going to recognize, and capitalize on, the opportunities that change creates.
6. They embrace failure.
Mentally strong people embrace failure because they know that the road to success is paved with it. No one ever experienced true success without first embracing failure. By revealing when you're on the wrong path, your mistakes pave the way for you to succeed. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when you're feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. It's this frustration that forces you to think differently, to look outside the box and to see the solution that you've been missing.
7. Yet, they don't dwell on mistakes.
Mentally strong people know that where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy, which produces positive emotions and improves performance. Mentally strong people distance themselves from their mistakes, but they do so without forgetting them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they are able to adapt and adjust for future success.
8. They don't compare themselves to others.
Mentally strong people don't pass judgment on other people because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don't need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Jealousy and resentment suck the life right out of you; they're massive energy-stealers. Mentally strong people don't waste time or energy sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up. Instead of wasting your energy on jealousy, funnel that energy into appreciation. When you celebrate the success of other people, you both benefit.
9. They exercise.
A study conducted at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more socially, intellectually and athletically competent. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher. Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, which is key to mental strength, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.
10. They get enough sleep.
It's difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your mental strength. When you sleep, your brain removes toxic proteins, which are by-products of neural activity when you're awake. Unfortunately, your brain can remove them adequately only while you're asleep, so when you don't get enough sleep, the toxic proteins remain in your brain cells, wreaking havoc by impairing your ability to think -- something no amount of caffeine can fix.
Mentally tough people know that their self-control, focus and memory are all reduced when they don't get enough -- or the right kind -- of sleep, so they make quality sleep a top priority.
11. They're relentlessly positive.
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you'll see that it's just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies and environmental disasters. It's easy to think the world is headed downhill fast. And who knows? Maybe it is. But mentally strong people don't worry about that because they don't get caught up in things they can't control. Instead of trying to start a revolution overnight, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power -- their attention and their effort.
Sunday, April 23, 2017
7 Mistakes on Your First Day of Work That Make You Seem Inexperienced
1. Going out the night before
If you've been out and about the night before, it always shows. You'll be less attentive, alert, and able to respond. Don't risk one night of fun for a potential career--even if you think it doesn't, it'll show.
2. Jumping in before you're ready
Even if you think you can, don't embark on a task without making sure you completely understand the instructions, and that you'll be able to execute what your boss is asking for. Otherwise, he or she might think that you're unable to exceed the expectations they had in mind.
3. Dressing incorrectly
Whether it's overly dressing up or down, the way that you present yourself your first day immediately shows whether or not you'll be able to fit in at the office. Make sure that you know what kind of image the company is trying to project of itself, and dress your part.
4. Being negative
Before the rest of the office knows how eager and positive your demeanor may normally be, showing a different kind of attitude the first day of work definitely leaves a negative impression. Take care not to be negative, or to avoid any kind of complaining while you're going about your first day.
5. Acting overeager
Even if you are enthusiastic, there's something we all dislike about the person that tries too hard. Show that you're able to complete everything the company asks and demands of you, but don't go too overboard.
6. Not admitting your mistakes
Even though we all are sure to make mistakes when we just start somewhere, being able to own up to them and amend for them correctly is an important skill that only the most professional of employees possess. Don't make the rookie mistake, and own up to them too.
7. Talking trash
There's nothing someone dislikes more than someone who runs their mouth at any chance they get. Don't be that person in the office. And definitely don't be that person on the first day.
8 Tips for Dominating Online Sales
1. Know your target market
Knowing your brand's audience is the most important ingredient to achieve success in any aspect of business. Different generations have different ways in which they absorb information. Gearing your online shopping options to the right demographic is key to driving digital sales. For example, millennials tend to gravitate towards more visual content when shopping whereas older generations typically prefer more informational, text based content. Consider your product and to whom it appeals. Then research their buying habits and figure out the best strategy to use on the website.
2. Keep it simple
When you are selling products online, it is all about creating a positive, one-stop customer experience in order to keep them coming back. Keeping the shopper's browsing and buying options quick and easy to navigate is beneficial to both parties. A long, complicated buying process will turn users away from your website and give them time to reconsider their purchase. Amazon does a great job in letting the user save their payment options and allow one-click buying to make shopping as easy as possible.
3. Give shoppers an opportunity to leave a review
One of the biggest advantages consumers see in online shopping is the ability to view and assess previous customer reactions. Shoppers are becoming more dependent on reviews when considering a purchase. Having a product review section is an easy way to generate user content and can be a key motivator in getting new shoppers to buy.
4. Blog about it
Running a blog about your product or service is an extremely effective way to drive content marketing. Producing free, limitless content will do wonders to create trust while keeping users informed. A great way to get started blogging is to think up all possible queries a customer might have and answer each one in detail with its own article. As the business advances, there will be more opportunities to blog and create content to make the shopping experience as informative as possible.
5. Accommodate influencers
Online influencers can play a huge role in determining your business' success. Once you have identified your target market, find the influencers within the respective community. This can be anyone such as a journalist, blogger, or public figure. A way to get on their good side is to give them a free sample of your product or service prior the public release. This gesture will let them know you respect their work as well as gives them an opportunity to talk about you within their community with an open mind. A potential shout out from a key influencer can not only provide measurable results, it will help to boost the status of your business to customers and drive online sales.
6. Pull off a PR stunt
Attracting positive media attention is an amazingly effective way to increase sales in the digital age. A well-executed public relations stuntcan be a difference maker in propelling your brand to worldwide recognition. Typically, a PR stunt will be something fun and outrageous that conveys your brand's interests to a wide audience. Be sure to have a clear call to action that will bring traffic to your website.
7. Offer outstanding customer service
When people shop online, they want a sense of security before they buy; offer reassurance if their needs are not initially met. A great way to offer comfort to shoppers is to have a money back guarantee. If they are not satisfied with their purchase, give them a refund and ask them about their experience. It will help to improve your website. Be sure the entire process is as stress-free as possible. The last thing a frustrated customer wants is to to do is jump through a bunch of hoops in order to reverse their decision. Remember, this is the last impression of a transaction. Make sure it's a good one.
8. Keep in touch with buyers
Building up a list of previous and potential buyers means you have a way to gauge reactions and inform them about new products. Following up with a shopper a few weeks after an online purchase is a great way to gain an insight on what buyers think of your business. As discussed earlier, customer reviews are very important in motivating others to buy. Reaching out after the fact to ask for their thoughts will build creditability while letting buyers know you value their experience.
Shopping attitudes and preferences have changed drastically in the last few decades. To survive in the digital age, businesses need to know how to effectively sell products online. In an increasingly interactive marketplace, creating an outstanding customer experience is essential in driving online sales for years to come.
Friday, April 14, 2017
10 Habits of the Most Confident People
1. Define your purpose.
It's hard to be confident in what you're doing if you're not sure why you're doing it. What is your purpose in work and in life? Once you identify your "why," you'll be more confident because you'll be coming from a place of purpose.
2. Avoid comparing yourself with others.
In almost every case, when you compare yourself with someone else, it takes the form of negative self-talk about how you're not good enough. Doing this weakens self-confidence. The only person you need to compare yourself with is the version of yourself that you want to become. That's it.
3. Focus on solutions.
There will always be challenges. But focusing solely on a problem is a self-defeating practice. Instead, acknowledge that problems will arise, and when they do, focus on finding solutions as a strong leader. The more problems you overcome, the more confidence you'll build and the easier it will be to find solutions.
4. Play to your strengths.
Sometimes we spend more time making up for our perceived weaknesses than we do honoring our strengths. While I certainly agree with improving weaknesses, you might find that your confidence will increase when you play up your strengths. For example, if you're not good at math (like me), don't be a CFO. Stick with your strengths.
5. Fake it till you make it.
If you suffer from imposter syndrome, or the untrue belief that you're not good enough, just pretend to be confident. Keep embracing the idea that you're already successful. You might not be convinced at first, but eventually your thoughts will follow your emotions and you'll become a more confident person.
6. Take action.
Fear can be paralyzing. Ignore the voice in your head telling you that you can't do something, and take action anyway. The more you let fear hold you back, the stronger the negative voice will become. It works in the other direction too: The more you take action, the quieter the negative voice will become.
7. Take pride in your appearance.
When you look good, you'll feel good. When you feel good, you feel confident. Wear the clothes you want to wear. Invest in how you look and you'll invest in your own success.
8. Focus on the positive.
Negative self-talk and pessimism are a vicious cycle, and a drain on your confidence. Focus on your positive attributes instead of perceived weaknesses; focus on your accomplishments rather than on your perceived failures. Keep focused on what is working instead of what is not working.
9. Be ready.
Success is part preparation and part opportunity. Study, practice, and do what it takes to prepare yourself for when the right opportunity knocks on your door. If you're prepared, you are more likely to have the confidence to capitalize on the opportunity.
10. Embrace the power of body language.
Body language speaks much louder than words. When you're feeling down on yourself, change your posture: Pull your shoulders back, hold your head high, stand with your feet wide and put your hands in the air like a superhero. Notice how the new stance quickly changes your mood and boosts your confidence.
7 Things Great Bosses Tell Their Employees Every Single Day
1. "I trust you."
These three words tell your employees that you believe in them, you believe in the work they're doing, and you know that they're going to get it right. This simple vote of confidence can do wonders in any organization.
2. "I'm proud of you."
Telling your employees that you're proud of the work they have done is as powerful as letting them know you trust them--maybe even more so.
3. "Thank you."
Showing gratitude is key to earning your employees' trust. People hate when their higher-ups expect them to give their best-quality work without appreciation, especially if it's asked for every day.
4. "I always have time for you."
There's something undeniably satisfying about having bosses--especially those who are very busy--say they always have time in their schedule for their employees. It makes the team feel valued--and appreciated--beyond what they may verbalize.
5. "What can I do to help?"
Knowing that your bosses care about you is always heart-warming, especially when it appears like they're the busiest people on earth. No matter how small the problem, a small query here and there to remind your team that you care is ideal for maintaining good relations.
6. "I'm sorry."
When bosses make mistakes, which is inevitable from time to time, it's important that they fully own up to it. There's nothing worse than higher-ups who pretend they do everything right.
7. "Don't worry about it."
Knowing that you will take care of mistakes they make, or simply have a situation under control, is incredibly influential in shaping how your team feels about your company. From time to time, reassure your employees that you've got it all together--your company will be sure to thrive.
These three words tell your employees that you believe in them, you believe in the work they're doing, and you know that they're going to get it right. This simple vote of confidence can do wonders in any organization.
2. "I'm proud of you."
Telling your employees that you're proud of the work they have done is as powerful as letting them know you trust them--maybe even more so.
3. "Thank you."
Showing gratitude is key to earning your employees' trust. People hate when their higher-ups expect them to give their best-quality work without appreciation, especially if it's asked for every day.
4. "I always have time for you."
There's something undeniably satisfying about having bosses--especially those who are very busy--say they always have time in their schedule for their employees. It makes the team feel valued--and appreciated--beyond what they may verbalize.
5. "What can I do to help?"
Knowing that your bosses care about you is always heart-warming, especially when it appears like they're the busiest people on earth. No matter how small the problem, a small query here and there to remind your team that you care is ideal for maintaining good relations.
6. "I'm sorry."
When bosses make mistakes, which is inevitable from time to time, it's important that they fully own up to it. There's nothing worse than higher-ups who pretend they do everything right.
7. "Don't worry about it."
Knowing that you will take care of mistakes they make, or simply have a situation under control, is incredibly influential in shaping how your team feels about your company. From time to time, reassure your employees that you've got it all together--your company will be sure to thrive.
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
7 Reasons Why Co-working Spaces Can be Decisive for Your Start-up's Success
- Essential services: Start-ups characteristically require a ton of indispensable services to scale their business. This includes infrastructural facilities such as 24x7 high-speed internet access, power supply, private offices, legal and HR service, and utility areas such as conference rooms. As co-working spaces are created while keeping a start-up's extensive requirements in mind, they end up being its one-stop destination.Also, the plug-&-play offices offer a full suite of conveniences along with a swanky work address.This makes them more cost-effective than setting up the same facilities for yourself in a small rented office or even at home.
- Low start-up and operational cost: The most promising start-ups often start off withthe lowest amount of initial capital. It is even possible for a budding entrepreneur to draw a salary lower than his/her employees. Theseco-working spaces allow a start-up to minimize their expenses by common pooling of resources. They can avail the desired seats at a cost-effective rate and can make use of utility areas and services by paying only when they require them. These factors greatly reduce operational costs of a start-up while giving it the right push and image.
- Agility: The start-up ecosystem has quite an agile landscape. The opportunities within are short-livedand demand an entrepreneur to be swift in terms of operations. On the other hand, finding a suitable property is quite an exhaustive process and also demands multiple procedural obligations and paperwork.Co-working spaces and plug-&-play offices have quick registration and on-boarding which preventstart-ups from losing time, and thereby opportunities.
- Mentoring & Networking: The key to a successful start-up is not just the innovativeness of its product, but also its go-to-market strategy and industry connections.Top co-working facilities frequently organize networking events and also help in finding suitable industry mentors for the start-up. They also hold occasional workshops as per the needs of a start-up.
- Additional help: Entrepreneurs also enjoy cooperation from other start-ups at these co-working places. They collaborate with each other to offer their domain knowledge and even extend their network to someone in need. Such interactions increase thebusiness contacts right from the initial level and also offer unparalleled exposure which would otherwise just not be possible. What's more? Co-working spaces also offer a regular office-like ambience, complete with regular interactive sessions, celebrations etc. which can really give that motivational boost to the small staff of a start-up.
- Expand as you grow: Private offices, more often than not, become a burden for start-ups.The limited floor area quickly becomes restrictive when a start-up begins gaining traction. Moreover, pausing operations can become too big of a risk to take at a crucial juncture. In contrast to this, at aforementioned places, business owners can avail additional seats or book an extra office effortlessly and scale up just in time. Zero infrastructural investment, moreover, provides them higher mobility during unfavorable market conditions.
- Raising investment: Co-working spaces are always on the radar of investors. A hub full of promising start-ups, investors always keep an eye on co-working spaces and plug-&-play offices and everything that is happening there. Operating through a co-working space can directly convert into an investment opportunity knocking at your doorstep.
12 Habits to Dramatically Improve Your Sleep
1. Wear blue-light blocking glasses at night.
Most of us know that staring at electronics before bed disrupts your sleep. But who wants to give up their smartphones, computers screens, and televisions in the evening? Not me.
You can still use your electronics and sleep better by wearing these blue-light blocking glasses made by my company. They block the artificial blue light from electronics which normally suppresses your sleep hormone, melatonin. Your body will naturally prepare for deep restorative sleep with minimal effort, leaving you focused and energized the next morning.
2. Have a morning routine.
Use a dawn simulator for a consistent wake time, ideally 90 minutes before starting work. Resist the temptation to immediately check emails and messages—you're not fully alert to process or respond to them properly. Plus, your stress hormone, cortisol, is at its peak. Leave it for 15 to 90 minutes until you're fully awake, hydrated, and fueled. If you feel the need for some mental stimulation, play Lumosity, read a book, or listen to a podcast.
3. Try morning exercise.
Appalachian State University found that morning workouts support the best sleep at night. Those who exercised at 7 a.m. slept longer and deeper than two groups that trained at 1 p.m. or 7 p.m.
You don't have to destroy yourself with high-intensity training; do some stretching or yoga. If proximity isn't an issue, walk or cycle to work.
4. Get more sunlight.
Science proves that getting more sunlight helps you sleep better at night. Sunlight boosts serotonin levels, sets the body clock to daytime, improves alertness, and boosts performance. Stand in the sun (or fresh air, if it's cold) with your morning coffee, and get your day off to the right start.
5. Hack your office.
If you're stuck in an office away from natural light, try to sit by the window. If that's a no-go, invest in a daylight lamp and humidifier to purify the air around your desk. Go outside after lunch for a 15-minute walk and expose your body to sunlight. Continuous sunlight during the day informs your body clock that it's daytime, which means more alertness and productivity.
6. Avoid alcohol.
Alcohol can make you fall asleep faster, but it messes with your sleep cycles. Your brain and body won't rejuvenate fully if you've been drinking. Experiment with a 30-day no alcohol challenge, and watch your sleep improve dramatically.
7. Avoid evening overstimulation.
Don't drink caffeine at least six hours before sleeping—it takes about that long for it to leave your system.
Try to avoid responding to emails and messages before sleep, or risk a potentially stressful situation keeping your mind ticking all night. Communicate that you're not available 24/7 or will only check emails three times a day. People will understand and can always SMS you if it's urgent. Or, ask a virtual assistant to monitor your emails and send you a WhatsApp message about anything urgent.
Leave the high-octane video games and action movies in HD surround sound until the weekend. Remove any stimulation from your bedroom like clutter, thriller novels, loud paintings, or work material.
8. Have an evening routine.
A low-impact evening activity like swimming helps clear your mind after a chaotic day. Dim the lights in your home. Opt for less powerful lamps or candles. Download your thoughts from the day by writing them on a "what's on your mind" list. Take this opportunity to write your to-do list for the next day, or write down three things you're grateful for. Pack your bag, so you don't have to do it in the morning. Maybe iron your clothes, prepare your lunch, or clean the house—remove any niggling thoughts that might wake you during the night. Meditation is great for this, too.
9. Take a magnesium supplement.
Magnesium is an anti-stress mineral, which can improve your sleep quality. Magnesium deficiencies are the second-most common deficiency in developed countries and can lead to insomnia. Your body easily absorbs magnesium glycinate (obtainable from any supplement aisle). Magnesium spray is a popular option, or you can take an Epsom salt bath.
10. Perfect your sleeping cave.
Humans sleep deeper in a dark environment. Our ancestors woke, worked, and slept based on the sun, back in the age where you couldn't do much in total darkness except sleep. Having any light sources in your bedroom can disrupt your sleep patterns, so eliminate your alarm clock if it has a digital screen, or get an alarm clock with a dimmer. Put black electrical tape over bright LEDs. Get blackout roller blinds. Attach blackout material with fasteners to windows, or wear a sleep mask. Keep your room at an optimal 60 to 64 degrees Fahrenheit.
11. Be obsessed with cleanliness.
A bit of fair warning: make sure you're not eating as you read this. Dust mites live in clothing, carpets, and bedding. They like warm environments, and they eat your dead skin. You could be sleeping on a surface full of their feces, which cause allergies and can wake you up. It's nasty, but true.
The solution? Have minimal furniture in your bedroom. Wash your sheets at least once a week. Wipe down all surfaces with antibacterial wipes. A HEPA filter that emits no light or sound and removes dust mites is also a good investment.
12. Wear nasal strips.
Do you wake up during the night with a dry mouth? You're a mouth breather. It's better to breathe through your nose when sleeping. Experiment with nasal strips to open your nose and reduce congestion.
Most of us know that staring at electronics before bed disrupts your sleep. But who wants to give up their smartphones, computers screens, and televisions in the evening? Not me.
You can still use your electronics and sleep better by wearing these blue-light blocking glasses made by my company. They block the artificial blue light from electronics which normally suppresses your sleep hormone, melatonin. Your body will naturally prepare for deep restorative sleep with minimal effort, leaving you focused and energized the next morning.
2. Have a morning routine.
Use a dawn simulator for a consistent wake time, ideally 90 minutes before starting work. Resist the temptation to immediately check emails and messages—you're not fully alert to process or respond to them properly. Plus, your stress hormone, cortisol, is at its peak. Leave it for 15 to 90 minutes until you're fully awake, hydrated, and fueled. If you feel the need for some mental stimulation, play Lumosity, read a book, or listen to a podcast.
3. Try morning exercise.
Appalachian State University found that morning workouts support the best sleep at night. Those who exercised at 7 a.m. slept longer and deeper than two groups that trained at 1 p.m. or 7 p.m.
You don't have to destroy yourself with high-intensity training; do some stretching or yoga. If proximity isn't an issue, walk or cycle to work.
4. Get more sunlight.
Science proves that getting more sunlight helps you sleep better at night. Sunlight boosts serotonin levels, sets the body clock to daytime, improves alertness, and boosts performance. Stand in the sun (or fresh air, if it's cold) with your morning coffee, and get your day off to the right start.
5. Hack your office.
If you're stuck in an office away from natural light, try to sit by the window. If that's a no-go, invest in a daylight lamp and humidifier to purify the air around your desk. Go outside after lunch for a 15-minute walk and expose your body to sunlight. Continuous sunlight during the day informs your body clock that it's daytime, which means more alertness and productivity.
6. Avoid alcohol.
Alcohol can make you fall asleep faster, but it messes with your sleep cycles. Your brain and body won't rejuvenate fully if you've been drinking. Experiment with a 30-day no alcohol challenge, and watch your sleep improve dramatically.
7. Avoid evening overstimulation.
Don't drink caffeine at least six hours before sleeping—it takes about that long for it to leave your system.
Try to avoid responding to emails and messages before sleep, or risk a potentially stressful situation keeping your mind ticking all night. Communicate that you're not available 24/7 or will only check emails three times a day. People will understand and can always SMS you if it's urgent. Or, ask a virtual assistant to monitor your emails and send you a WhatsApp message about anything urgent.
Leave the high-octane video games and action movies in HD surround sound until the weekend. Remove any stimulation from your bedroom like clutter, thriller novels, loud paintings, or work material.
8. Have an evening routine.
A low-impact evening activity like swimming helps clear your mind after a chaotic day. Dim the lights in your home. Opt for less powerful lamps or candles. Download your thoughts from the day by writing them on a "what's on your mind" list. Take this opportunity to write your to-do list for the next day, or write down three things you're grateful for. Pack your bag, so you don't have to do it in the morning. Maybe iron your clothes, prepare your lunch, or clean the house—remove any niggling thoughts that might wake you during the night. Meditation is great for this, too.
9. Take a magnesium supplement.
Magnesium is an anti-stress mineral, which can improve your sleep quality. Magnesium deficiencies are the second-most common deficiency in developed countries and can lead to insomnia. Your body easily absorbs magnesium glycinate (obtainable from any supplement aisle). Magnesium spray is a popular option, or you can take an Epsom salt bath.
10. Perfect your sleeping cave.
Humans sleep deeper in a dark environment. Our ancestors woke, worked, and slept based on the sun, back in the age where you couldn't do much in total darkness except sleep. Having any light sources in your bedroom can disrupt your sleep patterns, so eliminate your alarm clock if it has a digital screen, or get an alarm clock with a dimmer. Put black electrical tape over bright LEDs. Get blackout roller blinds. Attach blackout material with fasteners to windows, or wear a sleep mask. Keep your room at an optimal 60 to 64 degrees Fahrenheit.
11. Be obsessed with cleanliness.
A bit of fair warning: make sure you're not eating as you read this. Dust mites live in clothing, carpets, and bedding. They like warm environments, and they eat your dead skin. You could be sleeping on a surface full of their feces, which cause allergies and can wake you up. It's nasty, but true.
The solution? Have minimal furniture in your bedroom. Wash your sheets at least once a week. Wipe down all surfaces with antibacterial wipes. A HEPA filter that emits no light or sound and removes dust mites is also a good investment.
12. Wear nasal strips.
Do you wake up during the night with a dry mouth? You're a mouth breather. It's better to breathe through your nose when sleeping. Experiment with nasal strips to open your nose and reduce congestion.
9 Telltale Signs That It's Time To Quit Your Job
1. The company is circling the drain.
A recent study showed that 71 percent of small businesses close their doors by their tenth year in operation. If you're worried about your company's health, there's a good chance you're right. Watch for clues, like suddenly needing management approval for even minor expenses, an increase in closed-door meetings or an increased number of upper-management departures. If you suspect that the business is in trouble, it may be time to leave. If you wait until the company closes, you'll be in the job market competing against your former co-workers.
2. There's no room for advancement.
It's easy to get stuck in a job and, if you love what you're doing, getting stuck can be comfortable. However, it's important to remember that every job should enhance your skills, and add to your value as an employee. If you're not learning anything new, and are just puttering around doing the same old thing while people around you get promotions and plum assignments, it's time to look elsewhere.
3. You're out of the loop.
Does it seem like you're always the last one to hear about what's going on at work? If you're left out of meetings, rarely get face time with upper management and have never even heard of the big project everyone else is so excited about, that could mean that your bosses just see you as a body filling a desk, rather than as a valuable contributor. That's bad news for your career and may mean it's time to leave.
4. You know more than your boss.
It's frustrating to work for someone you believe to be less skilled or knowledgeable than you are, but the real issue is deeper than that. If you can't trust your company's leadership to make good decisions and steer the ship in the right direction, you'll be living in a constant state of anxiety. And, if you're right that your bosses don't know what they're doing, you could find yourself out of a job when the company goes under.
5. You have a bad boss who isn't going anywhere.
Bosses come and go, which is why conventional wisdom says that it's best to just wait a bad boss out. But that's not always the right move. If you have a bad boss who's well-liked by upper management, it may be time to leave. In addition to making you miserable every day, a two-faced manager who's loved by the higher ups can wreak havoc on your career by taking credit for your work, bad-mouthing you to others and blaming you for things that go wrong.
6. You dread going to work.
We all get a case of the Mondays from time to time, but if even thinking about your job fills you with dread, it's probably time to leave. Don't keep telling yourself you're having a bad week if what you really have is a job that's a bad fit.
7. You've lost your passion.
Even if you love the company, your boss and your co-workers, it's not worth the effort if you hate the work. Passion is a necessary ingredient for success. If you're unenthusiastic or even indifferent about the work you do, it's time to reassess your career.
8. Your health is suffering.
No paycheck is worth sacrificing your health. Job stress can lead to depression, insomnia, headaches, frequent illness and worse. Don't let this happen to you.
9. Your personal life is suffering.
Whether you work too many hours or you're stressed and miserable when you come home, it's time to leave when your job starts affecting your personal life.
Monday, April 10, 2017
10 Steps Everyone Must Take to Get Rich
1. Never operate at a loss.
The most simple step toward building wealth that people struggle with is spending less than they make. It might seem ridiculous, but it's the truth -- many people spend more than they make and float the difference on credit cards. They assume they will make more in the future and that it will all "even itself out," when in reality, the moment they start making more money, the more they spend.
The bad habit stays, and they continuously operate at a loss.
2. Place a tax on yourself.
If the government suddenly increased taxes and forced you to pay an extra $100 each month, you'd find a way to pay it. You would have to. Yet when it comes to saving money, people constantly find ways to rationalize their inability to sock away $100 each month.
Set up an automatic bank transfer so that as soon as you receive your paycheck, a small portion of it immediately goes into your savings account. You should pretend it doesn't even exist. And a few years from now, you'll thank yourself.
3. Open an IRA account (to accumulate interest tax free).
One of the best things a young person can do is open an IRA account, which can double as either a primary or secondary savings account. The intention here, however, is that money is not touched until much later in life. If you withdraw from it before the age of 65 you are penalized. The bonus, though, is that your money in an IRA account can grow tax free, which compounded over three or four decades ends up being a lot of money.
4. Don't play the stock market.
Unless your day job is trader, don't try to time the stock market. Don't think you're smarter than the stock market. Don't think you know which stocks are going to do well and which ones are going to do poorly. To think that you can do casually what some people make their entire careers is naive and reckless. At best, it's gambling.
Instead, invest a portion of your money that you're willing to lose in companies you like and want to hold on to for years to come. It's best if you make these decisions with a financial advisor, and even better if you purchase these long-term options inside your IRA account. That way, your gains remain tax-free.
5. Build a side hustle.
Even the world's most successful entrepreneurs have side hustles. According to Warren Buffet, the average millionaire has seven sources of income. Having multiple income streams is just part of the process.
The best thing you can do is figure out what you can provide or offer people that delivers true value. A perfect example is internet famous entrepreneur Sam Ovens, who has made millions selling online courses and consulting business owners.
"The big lesson I learned is that you have to sell something that the market actually wants," he told The Epoch Times. Simple, but that's how it should be.
Bonus: If you can refrain from spending your side hustle money and save it instead, you're in remarkable shape.
6. Always pay off your credit cards.
No matter how entrepreneurial you are, maxing out your credit cards without reliable streams of income to pay them off in a timely manner is irresponsible.
You always want to make financial decisions based on what you're currently making, not what you think you're going to make. Wait until you've got the money in the door before you go reinvest or spend it. Otherwise, you'll find yourself drowning in interest payments.
7. Set financial goals at the start of each quarter and year.
When you have a goal, you tend to be more responsible with your money. It's when you don't have a goal that it's much easier to rationalize spontaneous purchases.
At the start of each year, set a big goal for yourself and then break that goal down into three-month increments (quarters) so that you can check on your progress as you go along. These smaller goals are what help the larger one seem more attainable, and will give you a sense as to whether you're on the right track along the way.
8. Follow the 50-30-20 rule.
Summarized in a great article by Nerdwallet, many financial experts suggest that 50 percent of your income should be spent on needs (such as housing, car payments, food, etc.), 30 percent should be spent on what you want (clothes, nice dinners, etc.) and the remaining 20 percent should be saved.
Especially when you're young, you're most likely going to operate closer to 70-20-10, living off 70 percent of your income, spending 20 and saving 10. If you can even follow that, you're in good shape. But your goal should be to work toward following the 50-30-20 rule.
9. Surround yourself with financially responsible people.
Nothing breeds financial success like hanging out with people who have already attained it. This means finding people older than you that you can learn from and also making sure that your group of friends is comprised of people who share similar financial goals. It can be difficult to adhere to financial disciplines when you're spending time with spontaneous spenders.
A great way to learn about the art of finances is to find a family friend who can mentor you throughout the process -- someone who has achieved their own financial success. If you show an earnest interest in learning how to build the same for yourself, chances are someone will be happy to help. A willingness to learn goes a long way.
10. Judge yourself over the year, not the month.
While it is important to keep a tab on how you're doing month to month, it's far more important to judge success over longer periods of time. A year is a good indication of your financial practices. Some months might not be great (things happen), others might be wonderful.
The most simple step toward building wealth that people struggle with is spending less than they make. It might seem ridiculous, but it's the truth -- many people spend more than they make and float the difference on credit cards. They assume they will make more in the future and that it will all "even itself out," when in reality, the moment they start making more money, the more they spend.
The bad habit stays, and they continuously operate at a loss.
2. Place a tax on yourself.
If the government suddenly increased taxes and forced you to pay an extra $100 each month, you'd find a way to pay it. You would have to. Yet when it comes to saving money, people constantly find ways to rationalize their inability to sock away $100 each month.
Set up an automatic bank transfer so that as soon as you receive your paycheck, a small portion of it immediately goes into your savings account. You should pretend it doesn't even exist. And a few years from now, you'll thank yourself.
3. Open an IRA account (to accumulate interest tax free).
One of the best things a young person can do is open an IRA account, which can double as either a primary or secondary savings account. The intention here, however, is that money is not touched until much later in life. If you withdraw from it before the age of 65 you are penalized. The bonus, though, is that your money in an IRA account can grow tax free, which compounded over three or four decades ends up being a lot of money.
4. Don't play the stock market.
Unless your day job is trader, don't try to time the stock market. Don't think you're smarter than the stock market. Don't think you know which stocks are going to do well and which ones are going to do poorly. To think that you can do casually what some people make their entire careers is naive and reckless. At best, it's gambling.
Instead, invest a portion of your money that you're willing to lose in companies you like and want to hold on to for years to come. It's best if you make these decisions with a financial advisor, and even better if you purchase these long-term options inside your IRA account. That way, your gains remain tax-free.
5. Build a side hustle.
Even the world's most successful entrepreneurs have side hustles. According to Warren Buffet, the average millionaire has seven sources of income. Having multiple income streams is just part of the process.
The best thing you can do is figure out what you can provide or offer people that delivers true value. A perfect example is internet famous entrepreneur Sam Ovens, who has made millions selling online courses and consulting business owners.
"The big lesson I learned is that you have to sell something that the market actually wants," he told The Epoch Times. Simple, but that's how it should be.
Bonus: If you can refrain from spending your side hustle money and save it instead, you're in remarkable shape.
6. Always pay off your credit cards.
No matter how entrepreneurial you are, maxing out your credit cards without reliable streams of income to pay them off in a timely manner is irresponsible.
You always want to make financial decisions based on what you're currently making, not what you think you're going to make. Wait until you've got the money in the door before you go reinvest or spend it. Otherwise, you'll find yourself drowning in interest payments.
7. Set financial goals at the start of each quarter and year.
When you have a goal, you tend to be more responsible with your money. It's when you don't have a goal that it's much easier to rationalize spontaneous purchases.
At the start of each year, set a big goal for yourself and then break that goal down into three-month increments (quarters) so that you can check on your progress as you go along. These smaller goals are what help the larger one seem more attainable, and will give you a sense as to whether you're on the right track along the way.
8. Follow the 50-30-20 rule.
Summarized in a great article by Nerdwallet, many financial experts suggest that 50 percent of your income should be spent on needs (such as housing, car payments, food, etc.), 30 percent should be spent on what you want (clothes, nice dinners, etc.) and the remaining 20 percent should be saved.
Especially when you're young, you're most likely going to operate closer to 70-20-10, living off 70 percent of your income, spending 20 and saving 10. If you can even follow that, you're in good shape. But your goal should be to work toward following the 50-30-20 rule.
9. Surround yourself with financially responsible people.
Nothing breeds financial success like hanging out with people who have already attained it. This means finding people older than you that you can learn from and also making sure that your group of friends is comprised of people who share similar financial goals. It can be difficult to adhere to financial disciplines when you're spending time with spontaneous spenders.
A great way to learn about the art of finances is to find a family friend who can mentor you throughout the process -- someone who has achieved their own financial success. If you show an earnest interest in learning how to build the same for yourself, chances are someone will be happy to help. A willingness to learn goes a long way.
10. Judge yourself over the year, not the month.
While it is important to keep a tab on how you're doing month to month, it's far more important to judge success over longer periods of time. A year is a good indication of your financial practices. Some months might not be great (things happen), others might be wonderful.
Sunday, April 9, 2017
6 Proofreading Tips to Create a Mistake-Free Resume
1. Use an online checker
After you've created the first draft of your resume, run it through an online spelling and grammar checker. You can use the majority of these programs for free if you're only interested in a basic check, which is typically enough for your resume.
While an online grammar checker won't be enough to sufficiently proofread your resume, it can detect some of the major issues in your writing, like whether you've accidentally written then instead of than. This can give you a solid foundation to get started.
2. Read it out loud
Reading any document out loud can help you identify problems in sentence structure or wording that just doesn't sound right. Reading out loud also forces you to focus on the words and how they sound together, so you're more likely to catch any mistakes.
If you feel weird reading your resume out loud to yourself, ask a friend or family member to listen. They can help you identify any problems and provide you with a second opinion.
3. Get a second set of eyes
It's difficult to catch mistakes if you understand what you're trying to say or you've been looking at the document for too long. In this case, you may need another set of eyes to scan over your resume and pick out any mistakes.
Send your resume to at least one friend or family member to look over. If you have a few friends or family members willing to check it out, don't hesitate to send it to three or four. The more opinions you can get, the more likely you are to identify a problem before you send the resume in.
4. Hire a professional editor
While you may not need professional editing services each and every time you send in a resume, hiring an editor to comb through your resume before you hit the job market hard is a good idea. Because it is an editor's job to look for mistakes and make suggestions, they can ensure you're sending in the best version of your resume possible. In addition to your resume, they can also proof your application, cover letter, portfolio and other crucial correspondences.
Consider hiring an editor with experience editing resumes. The writing you use in a resume is typically much more direct than someone would use in sales copy or in a novel. Using an editor who specializes in editing job search documents can give you a leg up on the competition.
5. Double check contact information
When you're worried about submitting a resume with a spelling or grammatical error, you may not even notice the contact information is incorrect. If you've recently moved, you're using a resume template or you made a mistake when entering your phone number or address, it can mean prospective employers will have a challenging time finding you. Be sure to fix any incorrect information before you submit the document.
Check even the smallest of details, such as the abbreviations for states. While they may seem unimportant, using the wrong information on your resume can make you seem unprofessional and careless. Even something as silly as abbreviating a state the wrong way could cost you the job.
6. Come back to it later
Once you believe you've caught all the errors on your resume, set it aside and come back to it later. Although there may not be any additional mistakes, coming back to it with a clear mindset can help you feel confident when it's time to send it off.
After you've created the first draft of your resume, run it through an online spelling and grammar checker. You can use the majority of these programs for free if you're only interested in a basic check, which is typically enough for your resume.
While an online grammar checker won't be enough to sufficiently proofread your resume, it can detect some of the major issues in your writing, like whether you've accidentally written then instead of than. This can give you a solid foundation to get started.
2. Read it out loud
Reading any document out loud can help you identify problems in sentence structure or wording that just doesn't sound right. Reading out loud also forces you to focus on the words and how they sound together, so you're more likely to catch any mistakes.
If you feel weird reading your resume out loud to yourself, ask a friend or family member to listen. They can help you identify any problems and provide you with a second opinion.
3. Get a second set of eyes
It's difficult to catch mistakes if you understand what you're trying to say or you've been looking at the document for too long. In this case, you may need another set of eyes to scan over your resume and pick out any mistakes.
Send your resume to at least one friend or family member to look over. If you have a few friends or family members willing to check it out, don't hesitate to send it to three or four. The more opinions you can get, the more likely you are to identify a problem before you send the resume in.
4. Hire a professional editor
While you may not need professional editing services each and every time you send in a resume, hiring an editor to comb through your resume before you hit the job market hard is a good idea. Because it is an editor's job to look for mistakes and make suggestions, they can ensure you're sending in the best version of your resume possible. In addition to your resume, they can also proof your application, cover letter, portfolio and other crucial correspondences.
Consider hiring an editor with experience editing resumes. The writing you use in a resume is typically much more direct than someone would use in sales copy or in a novel. Using an editor who specializes in editing job search documents can give you a leg up on the competition.
5. Double check contact information
When you're worried about submitting a resume with a spelling or grammatical error, you may not even notice the contact information is incorrect. If you've recently moved, you're using a resume template or you made a mistake when entering your phone number or address, it can mean prospective employers will have a challenging time finding you. Be sure to fix any incorrect information before you submit the document.
Check even the smallest of details, such as the abbreviations for states. While they may seem unimportant, using the wrong information on your resume can make you seem unprofessional and careless. Even something as silly as abbreviating a state the wrong way could cost you the job.
6. Come back to it later
Once you believe you've caught all the errors on your resume, set it aside and come back to it later. Although there may not be any additional mistakes, coming back to it with a clear mindset can help you feel confident when it's time to send it off.
Friday, April 7, 2017
09 Unique Traits That Separate Winners From Wannabes
1. A winner never stops practicing what got them to where they are in the first place.
Anyone can achieve a small amount of success. A good amount of people then ladder that up to a moderate success. But the real difference between the people who become wildly successful and those that fall off track is that the winners never forget what got them their first win. They never stop practicing that original skill, that foundational piece that was so influential in their journey.
Don't forget where you came from. Your first win was your first win for a reason.
2. A winner never says, "I've figured it out. I've got the answer."
There is no answer--not a permanent one, anyway. You might have discovered your next move on the chessboard, but the moment you proclaim (to yourself and the world) that you've got it "all figured out" is the moment you begin defending what you've got, instead of fighting for how much more you can have. There is always room to grow. There is always more to learn. Stop looking for the destination. A winner doesn't see the finish line. They see the next wall they're prepared to run through.
3. A winner is hyper-aware of how they spend every single moment of their day.
You really want to become successful? Then you need to be prepared to be intentional with the entire structure of your routine and day to day lifestyle, start to finish. The way you relax has to be as intentional as the way you work. The people you spend time with have to be as important to you as your own goals and aspirations. Every single aspect of your life has to be done purposefully. That's the marker of someone determined to design their life.
4. A winner owns their mistakes so they can learn how to improve, faster.
You're not a winner if you can't own up to your own missteps. It's not just about accountability; it's about having the ability to take a good, hard look at yourself and question deeply how you can continue to improve. People who take accountability just to say, "See? I took the blame," miss the point entirely. This isn't about proving it to someone else. This is about using those moments as opportunities for your own growth. A winner welcomes these moments.
5. A winner is focused on mastering their craft, not proving their talents.
You can always tell the difference between a winner and wannabe in the way the person treats what they do. A winner cares far more about becoming the best at their craft, regardless of how many people know it, whereas a wannabe wants the entire world to know how great they are and simultaneously struggles to spend adequate time mastering their craft. The two move opposite of each other.
6. A winner sees their failures as opportunities to prove themselves again.
When a wannabe falls down, they stay down. They wallow, and they wonder how it "all went wrong." They struggle to see the lesson, and they usually end up taking great pride in where they used to be, which comforts them as they lie face-down on the pavement. A winner does the opposite. They see their downfall as another opportunity to climb the climb again. To prove that they weren't a one-hit wonder. To demand of themselves greatness, again and again.
7. A winner only spends time with other winners.
The vast majority of people don't understand what this actually means. Winners spending time with winners has nothing to do with external success or what has already been achieved. A winner recognizes work ethic, drive, passion, vision, and most of all, dedication. Those are the defining characteristics that even the most successful people look for in the up-and-comers. It's not just about what you've done to prove yourself already. It's about who you are, and the early signs that show where you're headed in life.
8. A winner knows that success can't be judged by the day or even the week. It has to be judged over the long term.
Nothing great happens overnight. It may appear that way. It may look from the outside like it happened suddenly. But anyone who has ever built something of value knows that success doesn't hit quickly. It comes after months and years of hard work, and a constant focus on improvement. That's why winners have unrelenting patience. They weren't born with it. They've just learned, the hard way, that great things take time.
9. A winner does not care about a title.
Titles are for people who judge their worth externally. At best, a winner will use a title as a simple means of explaining what they do. But when push comes to shove, they will not refer to their title and statue to gain leverage over others--especially in a company setting where, "Because I am the CEO" tends to be a point of diplomacy. True winners, who are in their hearts leaders, know their value. And their value is not defined in a title. It is exemplified in who they are, what they do, and the way they do it.
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